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women like slow sex

'Slow sex' expert says no short cut to good love hotel hanky-panky
Tokyo Isshukan (Feb. 27)

Putting women first is the shortest step to success when it comes to having an enjoyable session of "slow sex" in a love hotel, Japan's foremost "slow sex" expert tells Tokyo Isshukan (2/27).

Adam Tokunaga, operator of Japan's first sex school and a self-proclaimed expert in "slow sex," urges women be given the upper hand when it comes to enjoying sensuous pleasures in the not-so-sensual surroundings of a love hotel.

Tokunaga says that the ideal place for exceptional love hotel slow sex will be of relatively recent construction, be roomy with a large bed and not be filled with gaudy decorations or accessories that make the room like part of an amusement park.

"It's important from the very start that the woman feels she is actually taking part in the process, so letting her select the room gives her a sense of involvement and makes an enormous difference when it comes to bedtime," Tokunaga tells Tokyo Isshukan.

Once entering a love hotel room, Tokunaga says it's important to cut out all electronic distractions like the TV, videogames or the karaoke machine.

"You've paid all that money to enter a fantasy world, so why turn on the TV, or play a game, or sing karaoke to go back into reality? Of course it's important to relax before sex, but playing a video game or singing karaoke take you into a different dimension from relaxation and can be really detrimental to creating a sexually charged atmosphere," Tokunaga says.

The "slow sexpert" argues that couples should maintain gentle contact even after entering the love hotel room (many couples will hold hands until getting inside, then abruptly break off upon entering), which reassures the woman that she's not being treated like a mere sex object. And, Tokunaga adds, treating a woman like a lady is an iron rule for enjoyable slow sex in a love hotel.

"Women must be looked after like princesses," he says. "These small steps tell the woman that she is loved and will help her to get into the mood."

Tokunaga argues that there needs to be a decent build-up and enjoyable slow sex should not be simply plowing into the action. He argues that sipping on some of the alcohol almost invariably sold in love hotel rooms helps couples relax. Love talk is also important, even if the partners have been together for years, as "there's not a woman on the planet who doesn't like to be reminded of why she's loved," Tokunaga says.

Lighting is also important, especially when it comes down to the business end of the night.

"There's not a man out there who hasn't fought the battle with himself over whether the light should be on or off. You shouldn't forget that it's really hard to caress effectively when it's completely dark. A sense of embarrassment means women nearly all have some qualms about the lights being on, but they'll accept a certain degree of light if it means that they're going to have a more enjoyable time," Tokunaga, the self-professed "slow sexpert" tells Tokyo Isshukan. "But while some light is good, for God's sake don't go anywhere near the flashing, colored lights that can be found in some love hotel rooms." (By Ryann Connell)

February 23, 2007


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